There’s so much love stuff all over the interwebs. Really. It’s ridiculous. My single heart just can’t take it.
JK. I actually am okay with being single right now, which is super weird for me. Mostly because I just feel very comfortable that at the right time, some wicked awesome guy will come along and be perfect and things. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acYDNlMYAaI) I have time to keep thinking that. However, all this frou frou nonsense made me think about what love actually is to me. Romantic love, marriage love, the between-two-people kind. Here’s a list, so that when I do start dating again, I can just send the guy a link on Facebook, and cut out a few weeks of dating - straight to this excellence (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dn2r11gYShM):
-Being comfortable in silence. Knowing each other well enough that you don’t have to talk all the time and that quality time can frequently just be their presence.
-In the same vein, doing things together most of the time. Most IS a key word there.
-Not fighting. Arguing, perhaps. Bickering, teasing, etc., yeah, whatever. Fighting? NO. Some clarification of terms:
Arguing - providing logical reasoning for a standpoint and comparing the two different standpoints. Compromise preferred. Frustration optional.
Bickering - being a whiney little b**** because you just can sometimes, but both parties know that it’ll be over very quickly, and it’s not their fault.
Teasing - sarcastic fun poking that isn’t harmful.
Fighting - yelling, physically harming, taking the low road verbal attack wise, etc. THIS IS A BAD THING IT HURTS YOU AND YOUR KIDS JUST FREAKING DON’T DO IT OKAY
-Pitching in with housework and children and such cause you love them. Not saying “no” and sitting on the couch cause it’s “not your job”. If you both get things done quickly, then there’s time left over for other things to which TV can’t compare. ;) (Obviously bike riding in the park, get your mind out of the gutter.)
-Trying reasonably to look good.
(But also being okay with both of you looking like C.R.A.P. - because that’s allowed to happen. And will happen.)
-*Insert large amounts of virtual food here because we all know food is made with love. Especially cookies and bread. Also the recipe for a Krabby Patty, which explicitly includes a cup of love.*
-Babying that kid like, well, a baby, when they’re sick. By both people. None of this, “Oh, my dear lady friend, you must get over it when you’re really sick, but when I get a tiny cold, the entire world will just have to stop.”
-With that one, offering a warning when you’re on your period. And not getting offended when she’s on her period. Just buy some ice cream and lay low for a week. It’s much easier that way, promise.
-Hugs. No more explanation needed on that one. I <3 hugs. They’re pretty much the greatest display of affection. That and holding hands. Does that sound like a twelve year old said it? Oh yeah, I don’t care. Because I’ve seen some of the most adorable adult couples in the world participating frequently.
-Caring about what your object of affection cares about. You don’t have to know anything about it, or enjoy it really, but don’t put them down over it. Acknowledge their love for it. BOTH WAYS. It’s very hard to care about things you have very little interest in when you don’t have someone doing the same for you.
-Lots of other specific things, that would just make this post drag on. :)
TL;DR - Focusing on the other person, knowing/caring about their needs/wants, food, physical touch.
Simple enough, right?
Love (haha, yeah, had to do it),
****Please excuse my frequent YouTube video placement. I’m having a movie reference kinda day.